And they say we live in a Post-Feminist society...  

Sunday, June 29, 2008

So from the wonderful women at Feministing, I learned that certain people in the Southern Baptist community believe that the reason why there is so much domestic violence is not the fault of the asshole man but, rather, the woman. Wow, that is soooo original- blaming the victim. This sort of along the lines of rape: she should not be wearing THOSE types of clothes; she should be watching her drink; etc.

One reason that men abuse their wives is because women rebel against their husband's God-given authority, a Southern Baptist scholar [Bruce Ware] said Sunday in a Texas church....
"He will have to rule, and because he's a sinner, this can happen in one of two ways. It can happen either through ruling that is abusive and oppressive--and of course we all know the horrors of that and the ugliness of that--but here's the other way in which he can respond when his authority is threatened. He can acquiesce. He can become passive. He can give up any responsibility that he thought he had to the leader in the relationship and just say 'OK dear,' 'Whatever you say dear,' 'Fine dear' and become a passive husband, because of sin."
Even more amazing than previously thought. So, men, you have TWO choices (oh, goodie). Either become a disgusting waste of sperm and egg (aka Domestic Abuser) or you can be a doormate. Who doesn't love choices.?!? By the way, this "two choice" mentality is akin to the Bush Doctrine of "you are either with us or against us". This type of mental death is decaying the fabric of what is left of our collective critical thinking skills.
OH OH... it gets much better, like peanut butter and chocolate... TOGETHER!

"It really has been happening for about the past 30 years, ever since the force of the feminist movement was felt in our churches," Ware said.

He said one place the "egalitarian" view--the notion that males and females were created equal not only in essence but also in function--crops up is in churches that allow women to be ordained and become pastors.
Blaming it on the women's movement, huh? That's as original as that kid in junior high who cheated of my test. Apparently what I have learned from the misogynistic religous psychos is that everything bad happened after the 1970s. Which makes perfect sense because no man EVER beat his wife before that time. It's as if a whole slew of drugs got into out water system, which only affected men, causing them to hallucinate to view their significant other as a punching bag rather than an equal, human being. Which brings up another point. Mr Ware:
Ware offered 10 reasons "for affirming male headship in the created order." They include that man was created first and that woman was created "out of" Adam in order to be his "helper."
Okay, there are so many things wrong with that statement. First, the Genesis creation story is NOT real. The fact that there are two of them, contradicting- I might add, is one of them. Second, this Ware guy either failed biology or went to a crappy school were they neglected to mention to him that all human embryos start off female. That's right, you heard me- or read me- right. Okay fine. That is very much a blanketed statement. We all actually start off with a proto-female brain. If you wanna know more, Go here.
See? Like how I have data to back up all the crazy stuff I say, unlike Mr Male inferiority.
Here's a better answer to the crackpot excuse that "Theology Man" described: be confident in yourself and try to figure out what is wrong with YOU rather than dealing out black eyes and hospital bills; and if there is something wrong look inward first- it's easier to change yourself that someone else.
If you don't like the fact that your partner is better than you either go your separate ways, or (go figure) try to become a better person. Nothing like bettering yourself to help stop you from becoming an asshole abuser.

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2 comments: to “ And they say we live in a Post-Feminist society...

  • FeministGal
    July 21, 2008 at 7:12 AM  

    "If you don't like the fact that your partner is better than you either go your separate ways, or (go figure) try to become a better person. Nothing like bettering yourself to help stop you from becoming an asshole abuser."

    so so very true...

  • Agni
    July 24, 2008 at 2:58 AM  

    I support you. thanks for this activity.
    agni
    http://agnisetu.blogspot.com

 

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